Okay. Short post today (or ever).
I think gender and sexuality are not problematised enough. Let us talk about the "heterosexual" and let us use the example of a woman.
Is this woman attracted to a male, a man or a performer of masculinity?
So is a heterosexual woman attracted to the biological male, the cultural man or the social masculine?
The (stereo)typical Singaporean ethnic Chinese woman may like her "man" to be taller, tanner, leaner and preferably ethnic Chinese or Caucasian. So what do these preferences tell us about heterosexuality then?
If this woman says she is heterosexual, will she prefer the abovementioned "man" to a "man" who is, say, shorter, fatter and ethnic Malay or Indian? Which "man" will figure more in this woman's desires and fantasies? Which "man" is more likely to turn her off?
"Heterosexual" is sometimes a convenient substitute for monosexist, culturo-, physiologico-, socio-economico-, etc. -sexual!
At the same time, does this woman get turned on by a biological male who possess the cultural characteristics of the desirable male, or a biological female or non-human being who is able to perform the very same chracteristics?
If we could assign a percentage to it, how much of her love is for the phallus, for the performance of cultural masculinity, for the potential political/social/economic benefits of their union and so on?
Is our idea of romance and attraction predicated only on sexual function? To what extent do gender performance play a part? Do you fall in love with a gender or a sex?