Wednesday, December 12, 2007

There is "I" in Patriarchy

One factor of homophobia is patriarchy.

Patriarchy is also the reason why women are seen to be less important as men.

The man is always the man. The woman is never the woman. She is a wife, mother, daughter (feel free to add “in-law”), but never woman. The woman is defined by her role, her function. Does she really have an identity?

The man is always defined as more active, while the woman is passive. The active sperm and the passive egg. The penetrator is the perpetrator and instigator, while the penetrated is the passive receiver. Orgasm seems to be mostly understood with respect to the male anatomy, shrouding the female orgasm in mystery and some degree of invisibility. That’s sex education for you. This causes some to believe that women are less sexual than men, or perhaps even asexual.

Even in discourses on homosexuality, there is male dominance. Gay sex takes precedence. Lesbian sex becomes shrouded in mystery, and perhaps invisibilised. Perhaps lesbian sex is just a myth, not a reality that society is willing to accept.

Is the real woman a myth?

Patriarchy may be the heaps of mud piled upon the people and things we observe and experience, adding layers of meaning framed accordingly to how it sees it.

Then again, patriarchy may be the reason why the mud is there is the first place to be piled upon the people and things we were about to observe and experience.

Then again, what if people and things didn’t exist at all, but we believe them to exist, no thanks to the mud.

Patriarchy is so ingrained into our consciousness that attempts to subvert it often lead to a reliance on its binary opposite. What if its binary opposite is a mere creation of patriarchy itself?

Patriarchy has its own logic and based on its logic, decisions are made; and based on decisions made, lives are affected.

Patriarchy paves the way for hetero/sexism (both sexism and heterosexism). There is no negotiating with the hetero/sexist mind and logic, even if one exploited its inherent limitations, ironies and paradoxes. Even language is patriarchal.

You try to subvert it. People will think you are crazy and attempt to reinstitutionalise you.

If we are prisoners, who tells us we are prisoners and who keeps us in prison? I believe it’s our minds, which are programmed with the patriarchal inscriptions and ascriptions provided by the social and institutional mechanisms and domains we have long interacted with. How do you beat that?

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